By Request: Why It Is Impossible to Be Spiritual Without Being Religious

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I asked for feedback from our loyal Facebook followers to give me ideas for posts to write here at the site.  I received this reply:

You wrote in your first essay:  "The only solution to bad religion however is not the abolition of religion as such (contra New Atheism) nor becoming spiritual without being religious (which is impossible) but the formation of good, even better, more mature religion." - why is it impossible to be spiritual without being religious?

This is an excellent question.  It is impossible to become spiritual without being religious if one ever wants to share one’s spirituality--that is to say if one is ever going to enter into any form of real deep relationship, community, spiritual friendship and the like.  In integral terms this would mean accepting that the universe arises moment to moment consisting of individual and collective, interior and exterior forms of existence (i.e. quadrants).

Once spirituality is shared with another person(s), once someone asks another:  “how do you practice and can I do it too?”, then you have a religion.  A religion, as Ken Wiber says, is an organized form of spirituality.

 

Two people practicing spirituality together equals a religion.  Religion does not have to be limited only to the recognized so-called World Religions (i.e. Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Taoism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Confucianism, etc.).  Religion is organized spiritual practice.

After his awakening The Buddha spent a period of time questioning whether anyone could ever understand what he had experienced, whether anyone could really understand what he was about and how he practiced.  But eventually he came to accept the need to preach and teach and work with others.  And from there we have Buddhism.  The Buddha preached his first series of sermons (The Fire Sermon, The Eightfold Path Sermon, etc.) to some ascetic spiritual seekers friends of his and a religion was born.

Religion doesn’t have to be overly organized.  It doesn’t have to mean stuff-shirted folks in a building, singing bad music on a Sunday morning.  

One way to break a religion down by quadrants is as follows:

UL:  The inner experience of the religion (Spirituality)

UR:  The practices, the bodily way of being in a way of spirituality (Ethics + Praxis)

LL:  The circle of care and friendship that arises in this common shared set of practices (Community)

LR:  The organization, leadership structures (Institution)

The answer to the question of why one cannot be spiritual without becoming religious is that (done properly) religion is more sustainable and has more impact.  “A personal spiritual journey” alone puts far too much weight and pressure on an individual.  It creates more anxiety, frustration, confusion, or in worst of cases arrogance, egotism, and a person closed off from relationship.

St. Augustine, the great Christian theologian, said that sin was the curving in on oneself (i.e. the breaking/avoidance of relationship).  In this case, the danger is the avoidance of relationship to others in the spiritual life, to the needs of the world, to The Divine itself.

As long as human beings are going to form relationships with one another and try to achieve some goal together, then they will need structures.  They will need structures concerning money, decision-making and authority, ethics (especially sexual ones), service, care for children, elders, and vulnerable ones.  Those structures are the exterior social forms of what we typically call a religion.

In integral terminology higher stages/structures of development will not occur unless they include all four quadrants in their development. Any attempt to evolve higher structural forms of social and collective (as well as personal) manners of being-in-the-world will be (by this definition) a religion.  Or at least will involve a religion.  In fact, likely many religions.    

Humans may need to invent new religions (in light of the Divine Grace) in order to meet this demand, but religion of some variety will be necessary.  Otherwise the spiritual marketplace will continue to be dominated by individual self-motivated seeking whereby the individual ego becomes the de facto authority and locus of attention.  Whatever makes the individual feel safe and good will be practiced until at some point it no longer makes one feel good and then they jettison the practice.  

We need to come together as human beings.  How shall we live together? That is the question that must force itself upon our consciousness, searing us moment to moment.  Applied to the spiritual life the question becomes:  How Shall We Practice and Develop Together?  

That question (perhaps the most important for spiritual life in the West going forward) will inevitably end in a religion or religions.  It is not a question that is often asked or even considered to be relevant.  But How shall we practice and develop together is, I believe, the fundamental question for the spiritual life in the post-postmodern world.

Religion will not be the totality of the answer or answers to that question, but no legitimate answer will be embodied in this world that will not be a religion.


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9 comments

  • Comment Link Chris Bateman Friday, 23 July 2010 10:17 posted by Chris Bateman

    Chris: The only trouble with running this argument the way you present it here is that people may try and object with a "desert island" argument (would a person alone on a desert island be unable to have a spirituality?) You could address this via Kripe/Wittgenstein, but boy, what a round-the-houses way to approach the problem! :)

    I agree with your general thrust, however, and would like to offer my version of the same argument in my short piece The Meaning of Life, in which I draw on Tolstoy and Pannikar to address more or less the same point. The Tolstoy quote is especially relevant to your theme.

    Best wishes!

  • Comment Link Chris Bateman Friday, 23 July 2010 10:17 posted by Chris Bateman

    Whoops! Seems I can't embed links in your comments. Here's the link to "The Meaning of Life":

    http://onlyagame.typepad.com/only_a_game/2007/09/the-meaning-of-.html

  • Comment Link Chris Bateman Friday, 23 July 2010 10:17 posted by Chris Bateman

    Whoops! Seems I can't embed links in your comments. Here's the link to "The Meaning of Life":

    http://onlyagame.typepad.com/only_a_game/2007/09/the-meaning-of-.html

  • Comment Link andrew Friday, 23 July 2010 15:41 posted by andrew

    Good piece Chris. Your argument reminds me of a definition of 'politics' I encountered early on in my thinking life: politics are the negotiations that take place once there is more than one person present. They are inescapable. They exist, by definition, as the relationship between two (or more) people. Religion the same. The only thing I don't like in your piece, and here I am nitpicking, is the use of the word 'organised'. Don't mistake my comment for anything other than what it is - I understand what you are saying. But the word organised, to me at least, implies (very formalised and prescriptive) exterior structures, and I am not sure that spirituality must be contained or expressed by an exteriority simply to be shared. Religion, to my mind, in contrast to spirituality, is more of the social structures that are built up over time to provide a continuity to the experience of life to large groups of people - spirituality is indeed highly personal but I think can exist within groups of people without taking on the stiff and rigid qualities of religion. Early Christianity was far more spiritual than religious, and only once it became a social force, a force for governing and organising the social lives of communities, did it become religious! I am arguing over semantics I understand, but that would be my only objection. Any thoughts?

  • Comment Link Chris Dierkes Monday, 26 July 2010 20:04 posted by Chris Dierkes

    Chris. Thanks for the comment. I have a bunch of things to do in the next couple of days but hope to get to read your piece soon.

  • Comment Link Chris Dierkes Monday, 26 July 2010 20:06 posted by Chris Dierkes

    Andrew,

    Yeah you're right about the word organized. I meant it more in the sense of LR (any form of social formation) but the word is too loaded with negative connotations.

  • Comment Link Joe Perez Wednesday, 25 August 2010 19:54 posted by Joe Perez

    Thanks for permission to reprint this article on the Association of United Integralists (AUI) forum. It's in a group only available to registered users, or I'd post a link. The URL to the main forum is on the hot text of my name.

  • Comment Link Ted Friday, 10 September 2010 17:53 posted by Ted

    An individual can have causal and nondual realization without being religious. An individual can relate to others out of their realization in ways that embody spirituality as many would define it, without being religious. We can of course abstract the terms "spiritual" and "religious" to a point where we could say that an individual who relates to others out of their realization in ways that embody spirituality IS being religious. But I'm talking in less abstract and therefore more concrete terms about a hypothetical individual whose actions in relation to others embodies and models a spiritual way of being and relating without necessarily overtly addressing your question, "How Shall We Practice and Develop together." IOW, the way such an individual is in the world in relation to others is itself an answer (one of any number of possible answers) to the question.

  • Comment Link knerd Friday, 17 September 2010 10:10 posted by knerd

    I know people who religiously repeat "Oh--I'm not religious. I'm spiritual."

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