On Death Awareness and the Holy Moment- Fragments

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"I'm not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens". - Woody Allen

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What is death's relation to life and vice versa? It's an important question, and it sprung back into my consciousness the other day after watching a video of Sam Harris talking rather beautifully about the topic. The following is a series of fragments that arose and formed into loose constellations life and deathas I thought about death awareness and its relation to life, to beauty, and to the divine.

First, the Harris video. When I was younger I used to watch Oprah from time to time, and I can distinctly remember that every once and awhile she'd do a show where she talked to people who'd had some kind of near death experience, and had now come to see life as utterly precious. The basic message was always the same- these folks had come to realize that life was to be cherished in every moment, and by extension, we should do the same.

I couldn't disagree with the premise, in fact I found it a powerful one. I did however find it quite odd that we as a species needed to ALMOST DIE before we'd ever allow ourselves to be present to life in this eyes wide-open, gratitude filled way. But our fear of death is a powerful force, and sometimes in avoiding the recognition of our final fate we lose our connection to life along the way. In his talk Harris urges us to change this relationship, to stare into death so as to infuse our every moment with a present and potent life.

 

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When thinking of death and life I began to think of poetry, and in particular, a passage from Robert Harrison during his Entitled Opinions show on John Keats:

Any poet, especially modern poet, is intensely aware of the finitude of human existence, and is already invaded by death, is taken in by the immanent finality of all things, and even Shakespeare in his sonnets is full of the kind of impending sense of the loss of life and so forth, and that's what gives a particular pathos to Romantic poetry, not just John Keats'. There is one of the odes that we thought we might want to read here, which is the Ode to Melancholy. I think it's very interesting because melancholy you can characterize as a condition, not just biochemical, the kind of reductive things that contemporary psychiatry tries to reduce it to, but rather a mood in which the intrinsic finitude of human existence can come over you, and you realize that to be alive is really also to be in touch with death, somehow as a principle that's working itself out; and then you can speak about Spirit as life that runs through the death of me and so forth. This Ode to Melancholy is very interesting because he there associates the mood with beauty, or he urges himself to do that.

Ode to Melancholy

She dwells with Beauty - Beauty that must die;
    And Joy, whose hand is ever at his lips
Bidding adieu; and aching Pleasure nigh,
    Turning to poison while the bee-mouth sips:
Ay, in the very temple of Delight
    Veil'd Melancholy has her sovran shrine,
        Though seen of none save him whose strenuous tongue
    Can burst Joy's grape against his palate fine;
His soul shall taste the sadness of her might,
        And be among her cloudy trophies hung.

In poetry death and life are often interwoven, the bittersweet recognition of transience permeating the overflowing love of glorious creation.

Ode To Melancholy by autumn ethereal

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When thinking of death and life, I thought of Socrates, and his curious claim that the goal of philosophy was "the practice of dying and death" (Phaedo, 64). What could he mean? Here's the theologian Paul Tillich, from his book The Courage to Be:

The courage of Socrates (in Plato's picture) was based not on a doctrine of the immortality of the soul but on the affirmation of himself in his essential, indestructible being. He knows that he belongs to two orders of reality and that the one order is transtemporal. It was the courage of Socratestaras shevchenko 9 death of socrates which more than any philosophical reflection revealed to the ancient world that everyone belongs to two orders.

Socrates lived an exceptionally courageous and fearless existence. Somehow his preparation for death had given him great strength in life. Even Nietzsche, who at times reprimanded Socrates for being life-denying (particularly in his views on the importance of rationality), heaped praise on him too:

That he was sentenced to death, not exile, Socrates himself seems to have brought about with perfect awareness and without any natural awe of death. He went to his death with the calm with which, according to Plato's description, he leaves the Symposium at dawn, the last of the revelers, to begin a new day, while on the benches and on the earth his drowsy table companions remain behind to dream of Socrates, the true eroticist. (Birth of Tradegy, 13)

[painting- Taras Hryhorovych Shevchenko (1814 - 1861) 'Death of Socrates']

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When thinking of death and life, I recalled the Holy Moment scene in the movie Waking Life, where it's suggested that God, the eternal, is also immanent in creation, and can be found manifesting in every holy now.

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When thinking of death and life, I was reminded of Martin Heidegger, who thought that our constant fleeing from the inevitability of our "being-towards-death", was a great source of inauthenticity in our time. To escape the anxiety and fear surrounding death we often "fall into the they", we distract ourselves with others, with idle chatter, with busy doings of any sort to stay occupied and entertained. And countless diversions and distractions are constantly offered to us by our consumer society and its myriad commodities. But what does this fear based consumption cost society, cost ourselves, cost the planet? Who picks up the bill for the hungry ghosts? What happens when we escape into fantasy, into narcissism, into the architecture of fear? What happens to life? 

 


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When thinking of death and life, I could hear the voices of Michael Dowd and his wife Connie Barlow, who speak of looking at death "through deep time eyes". In this view death "is no less sacred than life", it's seen as the engine of generation and creativity in the universe. Dowd writes: img 5108

By taking the long view of "big history," and thereby nurturing an extended sense of who I am, I begin to experience a "self" that does not stop with my skin. Earth is my larger Self. The Universe is my even larger Self: my Great Self. So, yes, "I" (in this expanded sense) will continue to exist even after "I" (this particular body-mind) comes to a natural end. Recognizing that my small self will soon experience death everlasting, I find deep comfort in knowing that my larger Self will live on. More, I am powerfully motivated to be in action today precisely because I do not ignore or deny my mortality. My human self has but a brief window of opportunity to delight in, and contribute to, the ongoing evolution of the body of life and human culture. Truly, this is it; now or never.

And lastly, while thinking about death and life, I thought of the 'Griefwalker' Stephen Jenkinson, a contemporary teacher and spiritual activist who's trying to bring about a new relationship to death and dying in our post/modern culture. Here's the trailer from a recent documentary on Jenkinson, put out by the National Film Board of Canada.

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"Thomas Munzer, the Anabaptist and religious socialist, describes similar experiences [to his adversary Martin Luther]. He speaks of the ultimate situation in which everything finite reveals its finitude, in which the finite has come to its end, in which anxiety grips the heart and all previous meanings fall apart, and in which just for this reason the Divine Spirit can make itself felt and can turn the whole situation into a courage to be whose expression is revolutionary action". - Paul Tillich, The Courage to Be

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  • Comment Link Bruce Sanguin Thursday, 25 October 2012 01:32 posted by Bruce Sanguin

    Beautiful Trevor

    As you know I'm interested in how an evolutionary impulse is liberated through a deep embracing of death and the natural grief that comes with falling in love with life knowing that it all comes to an end. Jenkinson talks about simply wearing that truth in a pouch around our neck, and that grief is not a feeling, it's a life orientation, a practice.

  • Comment Link Trevor Malkinson Saturday, 27 October 2012 00:35 posted by Trevor Malkinson

    Thanks Bruce. I like this emphasis on grief and "the natural grief that comes with falling in love with life knowing that it all comes to an end". I'd like to learn more about this grief part of it. Keats touches on melancholy, which I suppose is similar, but grief seems to have it's own unique expression (and affect) too. It strikes me that a lot of energy could be freed up there, or liberated as you say.

    I randomly came across this passage today while looking for something else. Thought I'd add it to the fragments above:

    "The secret cause of suffering is, of course, mortality itself, which is the prime precondition of life, and so is indeed "grave and constant". It cannot be denied if life is to be affirmed". - Joseph Campbell, Myths to Live By, 'The Importance of Rites'.

  • Comment Link Jill Monday, 29 October 2012 14:50 posted by Jill

    Great post Trevor. I get concerned that looking into the death of humanity can also produce I kind of 'well, let's go down partying' kind of attitude rather than a reverence for our finitude. I am guilty of this attitude, at times. Probably spirituality is the only counter weight strong enough against the materialist consumption of all there is. I really woke up to death when someone said to me, 'you start dying the minute you're born so it is better to get used to it and soon as you can'. When doing the corpse pose in yoga the teacher said to feel what it will be like when you die to your body, when you just let it drop away. Sometimes it can feel like the body just melts into the floor and there I am. Dead and fully alive. It's a good practice for me. As for the suffering bit, that is tricky. I like the idea of hanging it in a bag because otherwise, it seems to have the ability to totally consume me. But the weird thing about grief is that we could not live without it. Grief is our reverence. This came up for me the other day in a poem, here is a bit:
    "Still, I was bent,
    and my laughter,
    as the poet said,
    was nowhere to be found.
    Then said my friend Daniel
    (brave even among lions),
    "It's not the weight you carry
    but how you carry it-
    books, bricks, grief-
    its all in the way
    you embrace it, balance it, carry it
    when you cannot, and would not,
    put it down."
    So I went on practicing.
    Have you noticed?
    Have you heard the laughter
    that comes now and again.
    (Mary Oliver - Heavy)

  • Comment Link Paul P Tuesday, 30 October 2012 04:31 posted by Paul P

    Trevor,

    Thanks for this post. Loved hearing Sam Harris channel Eckhart Tolle! But mostly thanks for the introduction to Stephen Jenkinson and his work.

    The whole movie Griefwalker is actually available online
    http://www.nfb.ca/film/griefwalker

    Very poignant. Relevant. Moving.

  • Comment Link Kathryn Ehnebuske Wednesday, 31 October 2012 04:25 posted by Kathryn Ehnebuske

    Trevor,

    Thank you. I loved the videos mingled with the poetry and the quotes, the sense of looking at grief from several different angles that complemented and embellished each other - very satisfying.

    It also motivated me to watch Griefwalker. My mother died last month, so this topic is particularly poignant. It was a chance to remember how beautiful life is and to see how death too is beautiful. I shed many tears but there was a raw beauty and release of pure love that wove through the sadness and left me feeling that it all makes sense, death is supposed to be, it fits.

  • Comment Link Trevor Malkinson Wednesday, 31 October 2012 16:27 posted by Trevor Malkinson

    Jill, I know what you mean about a response to death that says 'well, let's go down partying'. This view was famously put into words by Jim Morrison, when during a live performance he said, "I wanna have my kicks before the whole shithouse goes up in flames".

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YSlXjrxqDOE

    Morrison was also very present to death, at least lyrically. "Five to one baby, one in five, no on here gets out alive", and 'Riders On the Storm' has a lot of existentialist ethos to it. The Beat poets/generation also talked about 'getting your kicks' too, so this orientation has a pretty strong recent lineage. I can also relate as I, ahem, lived this out a lot over the past decade and a half. I have to admit when you party (and travel) with eyes wide open, it can be a pretty fun and powerful combo, but in the end its ultimately selfish and largely still fear based I would guess. It stopped working for me anyway.

    I love your notion that "grief is our reverence". I appreciate you and Bruce bringing out the subtleties around grief. I've experienced a lot of it over the years, particularly towards what's happening to the Earth and the natural world, and I've only recently begun really opening to that and trying to work with it, but I got a long way to go. I wrote this post as a way of trying to move through the grief in new ways (eventually preached it as part of a sermon on Earth Day this past year too):

    bits-a-pieces/item/808-sacred-sundays-holy-holy-holy-praise-as-resistance

    Just last night I was reading 'The Prophetic Imagination' by Walter Brueggemann, and a huge part of the later chapter of Jesus is all about his ability to take on and give voice to grief and suffering. In fact, one of the roles of the prophets, according to Breuggemann, is to give voice to the grief of a culture that is already dying and decaying, as this is something most people deny and resist. It looks like Stephen Jenkinson is offering a similar service to the culture of today. Anyway, this was all new to me, I hadn't read any of this before this post, so it's funny how once you become particularly present to a topic that it starts to show up everywhere. thanks Jill, and thanks for the poem, it's always good to read some Mary Oliver.

  • Comment Link Trevor Malkinson Wednesday, 31 October 2012 16:44 posted by Trevor Malkinson

    Paul P, nice to hear from you man, and thanks for the full link to the documentary on Jenkinson, I searched like a bastard for that when posting this (knowing it was out there), but couldn't find the link. I thought it had maybe been taken down or something, but glad to see it's still there.

    Kathyrn, thank you. Sorry to hear about your mother, glad Jenkinson's work had such a powerful effect, I guess he's doing something right. My parents both got sick over the past few years, and it was a bit of a rude awakening when the 'eternal bubble' of my youth dissipated and I realized my time with my parents was in its last phase. I'm trying to work through the basic fear and horror this brought forth for me (ie. death awareness!) so that I can really be there with them in all my heart and love in whatever years we have left, no matter what that looks like. Luckily they've been a great model for me with the care they've given their parents, hopefully I can continue that and model it for my own kids too.

    I just came across another recent interview with Jenkinson on a podcast called Extraenvironmentalist. I haven't listened to it yet, but thought I'd put it out there for folks who are interested, going to give it a listen myself today.

    http://www.extraenvironmentalist.com/2012/10/15/episode-51-culture-dying/

  • Comment Link Trevor Malkinson Thursday, 08 November 2012 18:55 posted by Trevor Malkinson

    I've written a new post that intersects with the one here, for readers interested in a few connecting axes.

    The Roots of Inauthenticity Within the Society of the Spectacle:

    bits-a-pieces/item/1128-martin-heidegger-on-the-roots-of-inauthenticity

    Also, that podcast interview linked about with Stephen Jenkinson is really, really good. I'm going to link to it again.

    http://www.extraenvironmentalist.com/2012/10/15/episode-51-culture-dying/

  • Comment Link sage Wednesday, 05 December 2012 06:19 posted by sage

    What a bunch of highbrow b.s.
    People with too much time on their hands.
    Billions have died without the profound advice. It's a bloody hard world for most who take death at the end because there is no choice. Try embracing 'life' in constant drudge and survival. The most fearful have to have answers...but the mystery is in God's hands and the broken know it.-Sage

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